There is always that one person that you can count on to be there. The one person in your life that no matter how long you spend apart, you always start right back up in the beginning again. A best friend, a soulmate. Although most people now take soulmate to be strictly for love and marriage and other things, but it may not always be so. I mean, sure there are soulmates for love, but there can be soulmates for friendship as well. If I can love my friend and love my lover and love my parents all at the same time, it’s still love. Different love, but it’s still love.
Of all my best friends in the world, Shaun is the oldest. And I’m not just saying that because he is older than me. But because we’ve been together the longest. Fourth grade. I was still pretty much the new kid from Philly, and he had moved from Dover and before that Michigan. We were the outsider kids. And the only thing the other one had. We hung out on the playground and we made up our own world to tell stories in. I don’t remember half the stuff that happened or half the characters involved, but we were quite the little storytellers, let me tell you.
So much so that most of our next few years, we spent every moment we could (when not doing other things like school work) writing a book. We had it all. Shaun would come up with the plotlines and I would fill in the holes with the characters. He wrote the story, I gave it flesh. We started this book at least three times that I can remember, and finished it, sadly, only once. And that manuscript was lost to the years. We would spend hours on the phone going over chapters and stories. How this character felt about this and that. And every year we would take a break from this and watch Miss America together. Over the phone.
Yes. You read that correctly. We would watch Miss America together over the phone. You have no idea how truly awesome that was.
There were boyfriends and girlfriends and relationship fights, and the constant, insane instance from everybody around us that we were dating. We swore and swore to them that no, no we were just friends. He had a girlfriend, I had a boyfriend, there was no way that we were dating, we were simply best friends. Throughout middle school this continued on, until after 8th grade graduation, the horrible reality struck. We were going to different high schools.
It turned out to not really be as bad as we thought. We still spent time together, weekends and some school nights. There were times when I would have piano lessons at Avenue Methodist and then Shaun would meet me after the lessons and we’d walk down to the waterfront behind the church and sit on a rock there and just talk for the night.
Every big moment in my young adult life, Shaun was there. From the first major breakup with a boyfriend, to the first car accident. I had been going food shopping for my parents in my little brown pinto. I had gotten to the corner across from Causey Mansion and was all set to make the left hand turn. I looked left, I looked right, and I went. But somehow, I didn’t see the large white station wagon. I don’t know how I missed it. But we hit. Their front passenger bumper to my front driver bumper. The next hour or so was a blur, I remember a few of the other kids from high school driving by and looking but not stopping. I remember going into the house on the corner to call the cops and my parents. I remember sitting in the cop car, talking to the police officer and looking out the window across the street.
And there was Shaun.
He had been coming back from church and had seen the brown pinto and lord knows I was the only person in town with that car so he knew it was me. So they got home from church and he walked to the accident scene (only about 3 blocks-ish) to wait for me. I saw him outside and started to cry, finally started to cry. The cop and I finished up and he let me go over and Shaun and I sat on the grass while waiting for my parents. He wrapped me up in his arms and just held me as the shock of what just happened and what it all meant started to hit.
Shaun has met every single one of my serious relationships. Every one. The guy that I was engaged to back at University. The Guy that I moved to maine for. Even Ee. Shaun has met every single man in my life that has ever become a big part of my life romantically. He has met them all. He was home from University on Halloween weekend when I brought Jimmy home. He was home for a visit from Michigan when Chase and I were down for a visit. And he was living in Seattle when Ee and I were there last year.
To say that Shaun is a huge part of my life is by no way or means an exaggeration.
We realized, or at least I did, at some point after high school was over that we had actually been dating all of those years. We had actually been a couple and that all of those people we kept telling them that they were crazy, were indeed not crazy. We were.
They say, and I don’t know really who ‘they’ are, but they say that you never really forget or lose that first love. It just grows into something else. Shaun was my first and longest best friend. Shaun was my first love and the first guy to ever make me care more about myself than what other people thought about me. Shaun saved my life on more than one occasion and has always been right there when I needed him to be. He is the best friend that I know for certain i will be able to see again in five or ten years and it will be like nothing has happened.
The hell that I went through the last year in maine, the trauma and drama of finding myself and building myself back up again, the numerous scars, were all helped to ease away by seeing Shaun in Seattle, hugging him tight, seeing him happy and seeing him smile. Ee did a lot for my healing, and a lot for my confidence, but Shaun finished it off.
There is always a place in my heart and in my life for Shaun. And there always will be. I’m trying to think of the best way to finish this off without saying something that will set my world ablaze and will not make people go crazy. But, The best way to end this, is the only way guaranteed to make people think I’m nuts. But ohwell.
I love you, Shaun.
You will always be my best, closest, oldest friend.
You will always be the one reason that I am here now to type these words.
You were the first person to save my life when I needed you most.
You will always be a part of my heart and of my life, no matter how far apart we are.
I love you.