“I am liberated enough to know that I like to stay at home.”
I said that to myself, and maybe other people, a few months back. I think I might have even put it up on facebook as a status, who can remember. But I’ve been thinking about it recently.
Do I want a job? Yes. Can I get one at this exact moment in time? No, because my visa status is currently nebulous and ‘wonky’. Have I worked for my living before? Yes. Have I worked and cleaned and cared for another person? Yes. Did I enjoy it? Not in the slightest. I have been in the workforce and I have been a stay-at-home-something. And to be honest, I think I know myself enough to realize that I like a balance of both.
I do enjoy having a job, going to work and being with coworkers that are not completely crazy. That is enjoyable. But I also like a lazy rainy afternoon at home, cleaning the kitchen so that I can attempt a new recipe.
For my 30th Birthday this year, E and I went halves on some brand new kitchen goodies. A dutch oven, pie dish, quiche pan, etc. I was ecstatic! We’ve bought a new set of dishes, new silverware, and just recently I was gifted n electric hand mixer for hannukah. I can’t even tell you how super excited I was! I giggled like a little girl when we got into the car with my new present! And then today, I decided to bust it out of it’s confining box and whip up something delicious!
So today I was in my kitchen, barefoot, complete with an awesome apron that I bought from Andrea’s OpenSky shop about a year ago. I was not in a skirt or a dress, and there was not a string of pearls around my neck either. But I was humming and happy and boiling up sweet potatoes and sifting together flour and baking soda, all to make a delicious (I hope!) sweet potato bread. It’s in the oven now so I can’t quite give you guys a verdict, but I can say that the apartment smells fantastic!
After a weekend of cleaning the apartment top to bottom, rearranging furniture, and having friends over for boardgames, a nice relaxing day today spent in the kitchen is just how I wanted my day to go.
I read some forums online and I see all these people, mostly men, talking about how a woman needs to be treated equal to a man in all ways. And I like the sentiment, but sometimes things can get a bit overzealous. Of course, there are others who say that a woman’s place is in the kitchen. And while I like my kitchen, I prefer to think that I can be other places as well.
I think, and this is probably going to get me some crazy thoughts, but I think that in most “Western” societies a woman’s place is wherever she damn well wants it to be.
For me? I like being home. I like being in the kitchen. I like cooking up meals and watching E eat them and enjoy them. I actually like cleaning the house, some times. And yes, I like going out and earning my own money. The two do not have to be mutually exclusive. I can be a strong liberated woman while baking a cake.
Those are just my thoughts of the day so far. Now I’m going to go curl up with a hot mug of tea and play some violent video games while waiting for my baking project to come out of the oven.