Have a seat. make yourself a nice cuppa. Get comfortable. I’m going to tell you a modern love story.
Four years ago I got involved in a message board at a rather famous webcomic’s website. I was playing games and posting about politics and generally being a typical citizen of the internet. I made some friends and we all started hanging out together in an online chat room. And it was there that I first started talking to my E.
I had just finished a long term relationship and was not looking for anything more serious than friendship. He was still finishing up his Doctorate Thesis and wasn’t looking for anything past the end of school. But we spent the nights and evenings talking about everything and anything.
Ideal vacations on a train through the outback, having dinner beneath the shadow of Uluru and counting the stars. Singing songs from Broadway musicals and laughing when one of us (him) got the lyrics so horribly wrong. This was all about three years ago. And then one night, something strange happened. As we were saying out good nights so that I could sleep and he could make dinner, he slipped. And the words “I love you” came out of his mouth.
He panicked. I panicked. We both ignored it. But then time passed and the words just seemed to be so very natural. He slipped and said it again. And then I slipped and said it back. And then the whirlwind of absolute insanity happened. Within months he was flying to the States from New Zealand to spend a week with me in DC. That time went far too quickly and we arranged to see one another in Seattle later that year.
And once that trip was over, my fate was sealed. It was only five months after having only spent three weeks total with him that I shoved my belongings into two suitcases and got onto the airplane to come to New Zealand. I have been here for over 19 months and it’s like the time has both flown and stood still. So much is happening in life that I could never have imagined.
Our happiness has only grown, our comfort is immeasurable, and our certainty unshakable. So when we took the trip to the States this summer/winter it was not a surprise that he asked my father’s permission for my hand. When we came back from the trip things continued as always. But there was now an anticipatory excitement happening.
Then, about a month ago, I was daydreaming over rings online and E said to me, ‘let’s go out this saturday to look!’ So I found a few local jewelers that I liked their websites and found their addresses. We went and spoke with a couple but the one gentleman in Devonport was astounding. He was polite, professional, educational, and overall excited. We left his store and looked around a bit more, but by the time that we got home, we knew that he was going to be the one.
So I started to tell E just what I wanted so hat he could call the jeweler, at which point E just told me to do it because I knew what I was talking about and he was clueless. So I called and emailed the jeweler and we set up an appointment to come back and see him on the next saturday.
We got to his shop and he had spent his week searching for the stones for my ring. I fell in love with them immediately. E nodded and smiled and we decided on the ring and the setting. E and the jeweler settled on a two week period of time for the ring to be finished.
And so time passed. one week and then another. the days moved so slowly. But then we got the emails from the jeweler. Our ring was ready! So this past saturday, October 20, we drove back to Devonport. And my ring was there and it was gorgeous. I tried it on and it fit absolutely perfectly.
And here is the next modern part.
I went to put the ring back into the box, so that E would be able to hide it and propose in his own time. But he told me that I could keep wearing it, so I did. We went and spent the afternoon with some friends at a campsite up north and then spent the rest of the weekend packing. I kept offering for him to take it so that he could propose, but he kept telling me to leave it on. So I did.
And then, last night, after a particularly long night of playing Civilization 5 on the computer, we were getting ready to go to bed. As we’re climbing tinto bed and settling into our customised cuddling positions, E said to me, “So I can’t think of how to make it a romantic surprise. I’ve been trying, but I just come up blank. So, do you want to get married?”
And so I said, “Yes!”